(Reviewed by JD Jung)
It’s the early 1980’s and San Francisco is a city of non-conformity, tolerance, and acceptance in contrast to Los Angeles, where most try to conform. That along with the abundance of drugs is part of what attracted film student and musician Roddy Bottum to the city.
Bottum captures the chaotic energy of this era in San Francisco while exploring identity, belonging, and artistic rebellion in his memoir, The Royal We. As someone drawn to personal stories set against cultural turning points, I found this book appealing.
His journey—from growing up gay in Los Angeles to finding a sense of freedom in San Francisco—is vividly told. The city comes alive as a haven for outsiders, where punks, artists, and eccentrics created their own version of family. His descriptions of the clash between hippies and punkers, and his own desire to push boundaries even further, make for an fascinating read.
What stood out most for me was Bottum’s honesty. He doesn’t shy away from uncomfortable truths, including his complicity in the misogyny and entitlement he witnessed while touring with his band. Since he always looked for the good in people, he also recognizes that he tended to gravitate to those who were outrageous and often emotionally and/ or mentally unwell. This self-awareness gives the memoir emotional depth, especially as he reflects on feeling isolated within his own identity.
That said, parts of the middle felt slow and a bit repetitive. However, it’s worth sticking with—the later revelation about one of his friends is surprising and made me rethink the entire story…but in a good way.
This is a gritty, introspective memoir that will appeal to readers interested in LGBTQ+ identity, punk culture, and coming-of-age stories. I have always loved San Franisco but The Royal We broadened my perception of this fabulous city.